I am embarking on a new adventure in life... dating a guy with kids... yeps that plural. This is very different than dating a single guy with no kids. BTW he is single... just with kids.
I find myself asking questions I thought I never would... I no longer come first? I am jealous of a couple of kids?
I have been dating this guy for about 6 months. This is the slowest moving relationship I have ever been in and when threatened to quit... guess what he says, I won't fight for you. I decided to give it another chance maybe I am too needy or maybe I am I just a relationship of convenience? When its convenient for him and his kids?
It's different when you have kids with someone, you put the kids first and everything including your house, your spouse, and yourself come 2nd, maybe even last. But when your the single one with out kids your not making the choice... he has made it for you.
I have heard the way he deals with his ex... a little too nice if you ask me, so I thought. Everyday I feel like I learn something new though, like he is nice to her because she lets him tell the kids goodnight, every night. I just have to remind myself that she is an ex for a reason and if he is going to go back to her, there is nothing I can do to stop it and if they get along, then it would be best for the kids.
So, I have decided to choose my battles with him. This is a learning process. Nothing means more to him than his kids and I would not want it any different. That is one of the qualities that attracts me to him.
I hope that we can find a healthy balance.
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